You want to get your ex girlfriend back and when she dumps you for someone else "getting over it" is easier said than done. It's not that you mistreated her in any way or cheated on her during your relationship. None of the things that should have caused a breakup were present in your relationship. So, the fact that you've been dumped for someone else has flipped your world upside down and inside out and now that you don't know which end is us you really don't know what to do next.
In many cases the first thing that comes to mind after a breakup is wanting to get your ex girlfriend back and wanting to get even with her for what she did. Many guys in similar positions belive that it's just not possible to get back together with their ex girlfriends and so they move on without trying. You have no idea how many men miss the boat on saving their relationships by not understanding what to do next.
It's true she's with someone else and not you right now, but if you have patience and play your cards right she can be yours again. You see, rebound relationships are notoriously brief and fleeting. What this means for you is that if you wait, even just a little while, chances are that she'll be single again.
It's important to make the most of your time while you're apart and not just sit at home and nurse your broken heart. The last thing you want is to show your ex girlfriend how much you're hurt after the breakup. No matter how much it hurts, you can't let her know. There are some things that you can do that will give you the upper hand when it comes time to make your move when you try to get back together which I'll outline below:
5 Proven Methods to Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back
1. Analyze the reason for the break-up.
I've written about this extensively in other posts, but I still can't emphasize it enough. The very first thing you need to do when it comes to getting back with your ex girlfriend is to analyze the relationship between you two. Take the time to look at both the good things and bad things that each of you brought to the table and see if the good outweighs the bad. It's important to note here that everyone in a relationship has their quirks and maybe there's something you thought that your ex did that was annoying and there are probably things you did that annoyed your ex.
Well I'm here to tell you that maybe the next girl you date will do something even more annoying or quirky that will drive you even more nuts. When you're analyzing your relationship, try and do it with some perspective and have an open mind. You might find that things weren't so bad after all.
2. Make the necessary changes.
Not a lot of guys know this, but from the women I've talked to they all agree that a man who's ambitious and grounded is attractive. What this means is that a woman likes a man with a plan. She wants to know that the guy she's with is going to amount to something. Have the confidence in yourself to broaden your horizons and take a class or start a new career or skill and get some direction in your life. I guarantee that as soon as you know what you want and go out and get it that your stock will go up and you will become attractive again to your ex girlfriend.
3. Start dating other women.
Dating other women is a somewhat controversial way of getting your ex girlfriend back but if you do it right it can work to your advantage. The goal here isn't to get revenge on your ex, but rather it's to show her that you're getting on without her. There's a good chance that your ex might become a little jealous when she sees you dating other women but dating is a great way to boost your self confidence so it's something I highly recommend.
4. Be a great friend for your ex-girlfriend.
Being a friend to your ex girlfriend is another way that you can get her back in your life, but it needs to be done carefully. If you stay too close to her she'll think you're needy, clingy and annoying and probably won't want anything to do with you. The trick here is to keep the door open with your ex just enough so that she knows what you're up to but at the same time doesn't think that you're stalking her.
5. Go 'No Contact'
This is probably the most important thing you can do and it needs to be done in conjunction with the other 4. The reason that you need to go 'no contact' on your ex girlfriend is that you've got to give her the chance to miss you. Most people make the mistake of trying to keep in contact with their ex because they think that their ex will stop thinking about them simply because they are with someone else.
In reality this couldn't be farther from the truth. Allow me to demonstrate. Reverse the situation in your head and imagine that you were the one who broke things off and even though you're with someone else right now do you think you've stopped thinking about your ex? Of course not!
Your Next Move
Getting your ex girlfriend back after she's dumped you is all about two things - making her miss you and changing how she sees you. Now having said that,the process of getting her arms around you is much more involved than just the advice outlined in this article.
These tips are a great place to start and they will get her attention and have her looking your way again, however there are still more details and information you need to understand and master.